I am a terrible goal maker. I'm horrible at getting clarity and then following through. Last year I decided I wanted to run four 5ks during the year. I looked them up, started running a bit...and never even did one.
Oh, I know all about S.M.A.R.T. goals - I've taught it to my kids. I just don't have the follow through- which means that they aren't developing it, either. Ugh. I've gotten pretty frustrated with myself lately: not following through, avoiding hard stuff and letting someone else (usually my amazing husband) pick up the slack. I hate that I do that!
So this month, I decided to get serious about fixing myself. I purchased Michael Hyatt's 5 Days To Your Best Year Ever course on deliberately planning for the new year. I just started it yesterday, so I am still learning, but one thing about it has really struck a chord and I am seeing changes in my life already.
He talks about having cynicism about ourselves. About my feeling badly that I don't follow through, am often lazy and have little self discipline--and not being totally sure that I can overcome it. I mean, I have hope, but that hope is also tinged with past failures.
Do you ever feel that way about yourself and the issues you have, or am I the only one?
Anyway, he said that those are "limiting beliefs" and we need to reframe our thoughts to ourselves. These new thoughts are called "liberating truths" and we need to tell ourselves these things, instead. He had me write them down-and I have to admit, they are starting to stick!
Here are my limiting beliefs, followed by my liberating truths:
1. I don't have self control vs. I am in charge of my life and I make good choices.
2. I don't connect well with others vs. I am consciously developing good relationships.
3. I am lazy vs. I water camels.
Uh, what's up with the camels?
When I was about 11 or 12, I attended an extended family gathering. When it was time to clean up, I was in charge of sweeping and spraying down the patio. I was a little nuerotic about it, trying to get it perfectly clean- maybe I was bored? I don't know. Anyway, when my uncle saw me trying so hard to clean his concrete off, he said to my dad in a voice that I could hear, "That girl would water camels." He was refering to the Bible story of Rebecca watering the camels of Abraham's servant and meant it as a great compliment.
I've never forgotten that. So for this coming year, I chose to use it as an example of something that I have already proven that I am capable of.
The last little bit, when I have had the choice to be lazy or finish up a task- I have reminded myself that I water camels, or that I have the ability to make good choices. And the results have been exciting. Now, the new year hasn't even started yet, I have a lot more to learn from the course, and I've only been doing this for a couple days, but I have been surprised by the power that these phrases have had on my life so far. To help me remember, and hopefully to give inspiration, I just ordered this great print from Etsy to place on my desk. You can find it here.
These small successes are why I wanted to share this with you. Maybe you are frustrated with yourself, too. Or maybe you are really great at setting and reaching goals but something is eluding you. Maybe you have a child who could use more empowering language. If so, I challenge you to try this experiment- and I would love to hear from you about what you think.
Community Question: What do you often tell yourself? I would especially love to hear your liberating truths! (I might need to borrow them!) ;)
Hi, I'm Jen! I adore chocolate, I'd rather read than clean my house, and I haven't seen my abs in I-don't-know-how-long. But I love my husband and kids to death and try to Raise The Good within myself and my family by making wise and uplifting media choices and having a deliberate family culture. You are probably doing the same thing. Let's share what works with each other!
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