Title: Scary Close: Dropping the Act and Finding True Intimacy
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Author: Donald Miller
Suggested Ages: Mid teen-Adult
It's funny how God works with me. Often times when I sense I need a change in my life, a resource focused on that topic will magically appear. That is what happened to me with this book. And the timing was amazing.
I have a hard time opening up. As a result, it's hard to be really intimate with anyone. I've been noticing this for a while now, and how it needs to change. And then this book tapped on my heart.
I'd known a little about Donald Miller before, because he is pretty big in the blogging world. But I hadn't been aware of his writing. When this book showed up on my daughter's reading list for her Leadership class, I was intrigued. I had to go on a road trip soon after, (by myself! It was fabulous!) and decided to listen to the audio version of it on the way.
Donald Miller is always interesting, and this book is no exception. In Scary Close, Donald details his past of failed relationships, the ensuing drama and how he finally decided to go to emotional and relational rehab. What he learned there, changed his life--and it might change yours, too.
I loved this book. I listened to it all in one sitting (road trip, remember?) and it really touched a nerve. Donald talks about knowing and accepting your true self--discarding all of the masks we put on, thinking that they are better than the "real" us. Because here's the thing: when has fake EVER been better than real? Fake, genetically modified and processed food vs. real food, dentures vs. real teeth, lies vs. the truth...you get the idea.
Donald bares a lot of his heart in this book. We learn about how he pulled away the veneer and accepted his true self, and how this was instrumental in helping him be true in the rest of his relationships. He also learned to honor other people's true selves. He chronicles his journey, ending with the courtship and marriage of his wife, Betsy, whom he has achieved true emotional intimacy with.
I learned a lot in this book. It made me examine myself and my relationships, including the one I have with myself. I still have a way to go, but this book provided an excellent road map. I highly recommend it.
Hi, I'm Jen! I adore chocolate, I'd rather read than clean my house, and I haven't seen my abs in I-don't-know-how-long. But I love my husband and kids to death and try to Raise The Good within myself and my family by making wise and uplifting media choices and having a deliberate family culture. You are probably doing the same thing. Let's share what works with each other!
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