*I am excited to introduce my new friend and contributor to Raise the Good, Ralphie Jacobs! This will be the first of many great ideas and articles from her.*
Have you heard about Special Time?
It’s also called mommy/daddy dates or one-on-one time. But whatever you call it, it’s one of parenting’s best kept secrets. Let me tell you why.
Special time is simply time set aside daily or weekly for each individual child in your family. I tell my kiddos that we can do whatever they want, and oh my heavens, their little hearts just about burst with joy. Our special time looks like 20 minute sessions with each girl on Fridays and is almost always done at home.
My girls often choose coloring, reading together, cooking a treat, doing a puzzle, painting fingernails, and my personal favorite, soaking our feet in a sink full of hot water (don’t knock it till you try it).
But why is special time so... special?
There are the obvious reasons. Creating memories, bonding, and getting a unique chance to really get to know your child.
There is another huge benefit though, that lies just beneath the surface. And that is a significant decline in sibling rivalry.
What?! I know. Can we say that again? A SIGNIFICANT decline in sibling rivalry.
And why? Because while giving that child special time you are creating a space for her in your home. You’re telling her that she belongs, that she is wanted, and that she’s safe.
Arguing with siblings is a natural part of family life. It’s characteristic of virtually all children and it drives all parents crazy. They do it because they want our attention. They want to be validated. They want a defined space in your home.
So, if you look at it that way, special time is a preventative measure. It’s a proactive way of parenting and it fills your child’s bucket in a way that only you can.
Give it a try.
Ralphie writes all about motherhood, parenting, and living with purpose on her Instagram feed: @simplyonpurpose. Go follow along!
Hi, I'm Jen! I adore chocolate, I'd rather read than clean my house, and I haven't seen my abs in I-don't-know-how-long. But I love my husband and kids to death and try to Raise The Good within myself and my family by making wise and uplifting media choices and having a deliberate family culture. You are probably doing the same thing. Let's share what works with each other!
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